If you are a dreamer, come in.
If you are a dreamer, a wisher, a liar,
A hope-er, a pray-er, a magic bean buyer . . .
If you’re a pretender, come sit by my fire,
For we have some flax golden tales to spin.
~ Shel Silverstein
Part of the magic of being a parent is seeing our kids dream, and going on the journey with them, isn’t it?
It’s often much easier to believe that they can have their dreams than that you can too, isn’t it
Yet how does it affect your children, let alone yourself, when you let go of your dreams?
Of course, you only do so because the world can beat you down, and make you think that your dreams are impossible.
In the replay of our interview, you’ll hear Wendy Hart explain why it isn’t your fault that you haven’t been successful. Most of us have the wrong recipe (full explanation on the call), and so of course our cake is a flop.
Who in their right mind would keep putting their all into making a flopped cake?You did the sensible thing, putting away those dreams, when you were stuck with the wrong recipe.
Wendy literally has the recipe, and it’s her mission and passion to share it with you.
Read on for a great story that she couldn’t fit into the interview! In fact, …
Wendy gave 150% (we’re so lucky!)
Wendy charges $500/ hour for her time, and she doesn’t take on many new clients.
I’ve hired her a few times, and been grateful to have access to her brilliant mind because she provides so much value.
Today, not only did she join us for an hour, but she stayed on for close to another 30 minutes!
Part of the reason she stayed on so long is she loves us so much in the GPS community of parents.
She believes in you.
She knows that you are changing the world.
Every change you make as a parent literally changes our planet!That’s exciting when you think of the cumulative effect of what we’re doing here in this community
And Wendy wants you to have the best tools!
The other reason she stayed on is she wanted everyone who was new to have a solid base in her work (and repetition is one of the keys to learning, so we all benefited from the review).
Then she wanted to dive into some of her new material.
There was a lot to cover, and I’m grateful that she stayed on and gave us so much great material.
The inconsistent echo at the beginning of the call, that you can hear on the replay, ends just a few minutes in!
Story for Doubters…
Wendy wanted to share one more story in order to give you a very specific example of when your alarm is triggered.
You may have doubts about whether the “alarm tripping thing” she talks about on the call, really applies to you.
Have you ever been to a party, or in some social situation, when you were feeling really confident, strutting your stuff, and on top of your game?
Then out of nowhere, someone came up and surprised you with a rude comment, or something that made you feel attacked or put down?
If you’re like most people you just stood there stammering, unable to think of a good thing to say back to them.
If so, that’s because your alarm was tripped. The blood had left your thinking brain, and you couldn’t think clearly.
Your caveman brain had taken over.
Minutes or hours later, when you were out of that threatening environment, did you find yourself thinking up come back after come back? Were you frustrated with yourself that you couldn’t come up with those great lines in the heat of the moment?
Now you know why this happened (if you haven’t listened to the call yet, it’ll make sense as soon as you listen).You also know why it is not your fault that you couldn’t come up with a great reply.
Just so you know, your caveman brain is taking over like that, multiple times per week or even every day. It’s just that it’s been happening in a less pronounced way, and we don’t know that’s what’s happening.
How much more do you imagine you would get done in a day, if your rational brain weren’t being hijacked on a regular basis? Once you learn how to manage that little alarm, you’ll gain back much more control of your life.
Comment from a GPS community member:
I really want to commend you on the guests you are having on your show! Every one of them has really spoken to me. I am seeking better ways to be a mom, as well as seeking a new career that fits better into my family life, and honestly, you seem to be reading my mind! ~ Lea Ann from Ontario, Canada.
Here’s to the wisher, the liar, the magic-bean-buyer inside of you and each of your precious family members,
P.S. Share some of your hopes and dreams in the comment section below.
You’ll be amazed at how your vitality rekindles along with your dreams.
Life becomes magical again.
I tell my kids that magic truly exists. I’ve learned that from Wendy. It is magic when a lifelong dream comes true, don’t you think?
Invite any other wishers and dreams and magic bean buyers to join us! However, if you know that your friends and family aren’t ready to join us, wait!
I don’t want anyone trodding on your dreams. Especially not when you are returning to gather round our fire, after far too long.
Dreams are fragile. As another great poet, William Butler Yeats, so beautiful explains in his poem He wishes for the cloths of heaven:
Had I the heavens’ embroidered cloths,
Enwrought with golden and silver light,
The blue and the dim and the dark cloths
Of night and light and the half-light,
I would spread the cloths under your feet:
But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly, because you tread on my dreams.