"The healing comes when the angry feelings are expressed and allowed by you—even if the behavior is not."
When we see the situation differently, it changes how we respond. That's one of many enduring perspective shifts that Dr. Gordon Neufeld taeught me. Hope this article helps you to see your child's misbehavior, differently.
The hardest kids need a parent with a soft, caring heart. When we don't understand this, we get triggered by the child's behavior. Yet once we see how vulnerable that child is, and how desperately he or she needs us, our caring instincts are naturally evoked.
The hardest kids to love transform when we see them for who they are.
Share this to help spread the word. More and more kids are acting out, as the world changes to make the conditions required for great parenting, less and less common. It's no one's fault, but as the adult, we are the leaders who need to find the way through. It's our caring hearts that will guide us to find the way out. ... See MoreSee Less
"Hearts can grow cold and become hardened, something poets, artists, and musicians have always claimed. From children to adults, emotional numbing is part of the human condition and reveals the inhere...